The old adage of dealing with conflict was “fight or flight.” As humans, we learned about fight or flight in our anthropological heritage. When threatened, we weren’t too well equipped to fight. We learned how to run, leap and hide — flight is what saved our butts. If trapped, we had no other option but to fight it out.

What happens when you are on a break in the office coffee room, the teachers room, the doctors break room, or you are sitting outside on a bench with fellow country club members, or someone makes a derogatory comment on your Facebook or Twitter page, or you are about to have dinner with your family and the topic somehow turns to religion? Do you sit ...